REAL Marriage

Have you seen those lists of “101 ways to…”?  Now is the time to give your spouse the REAL Love Note that is “101 reasons I love you” or “101 things I like about you.”  Yes, this one will take a little more time and be bigger than normal.  Writing this note is good for both of you.  You, as the writer, need to be reminded of all of these things so that you can keep joy, love, and thankfulness in your marriage.  Your spouse will enjoy seeing these things and will definitely keep this note to read again and again.

REAL Love Notes are deposits in the love bank.

Many, if not most, of your dates should be relatively easy to plan and carry out.  Tomorrow is Independence Day!  Take your spouse to see your local fireworks.  As you celebrate our country’s independence spend some time talking about how the two of you like being together.

A REAL date a week builds a REAL marriage.

Originally I thought about having you do a REAL Love Note of the 100 top reasons you love your spouse.  Then, I thought that is more time and space then we usually use for a REAL Love Note though you can still do it and it is a REAL Love Note, only bigger.

So, for this REAL Love Note let your loved one know that you want to be with him or her for the next 100 years.

REAL Love Notes are deposits in the love bank.

If you are attrarcted to another person tell your spouse and ask him or her to help you understand it and meet those needs in an appropriate way.

Remaining faithful is essential to your REAL marriage.

Today is Loving Day.  Take your spouse somewhere or do something with your spouse that he or she considers “loving.”  This might be the time to break out that favorites list that you keep.

A REAL date a week builds a REAL marriage.

Tomorrow is Ball Point Pen Day.  That is a great time to get out a ball point pen and wish your spouse or loved one a “Happy Ball Point Pen Day” or to simply say, “I love you.”  Ball point pens are great for writing REAL Love Notes.

REAL Love Notes are deposits in the love bank.

Today is Doughnut Day and tomorrow is Banana Split Day.  Go out for a doughnut or banana split with your spouse.

A REAL date a week builds a REAL marriage.

Today is Leave the Office Early Day.  Give your spouse a REAL Love Note celebrating Leave the Office Early Day.  This is one of those times that an e-mail love note can be handy.  Of course, what you do with that extra time together is up to you.  Check out the REAL Date Tips for some ideas.

REAL Love Notes are deposits in the love bank.

“Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved.”  Barbara Johnson

Keep old flames from reigniting.

Always be careful around people you dated, were romantically involved with, or engaged to before you were married.  That flame died for a reason so do not let it flare up again and burn your marriage.

Remaining faithful is essential to your REAL marriage.