This week’s REAL Love Note is “compliment a body part of your spouse’s.” Choose a body part of your spouse’s that you would like to compliment and draw it on the outside of the note. On the inside write the complimentary message, e.g. “I really like your cute little button nose.”
REAL Love Notes are deposits in the love bank.
“If you want to continue to have love in your life, don’t forget to put some life in your love.” Dr. Mardy Grothe
“The repetition of small efforts will accomplish more than the occasional use of great talents.” Charles H. Spurgeon
When couples consistently do the small things for each other they keep a good enviornment going in their marriage. Those who try to do some big things once in a while get fewer instances of a good environment. Keep doing those small things and you can have a great REAL marriage.
August 24, 2009 is National Waffle Day. For this week’s REAL Love Note make your spouse some waffles, in the waffle maker (not the frozen kind unless you don’t have a waffle maker) and put a syrup heart on it. If you really want to butter up your spouse put a butter shaped heart on the waffles as well (it was too obvious not to use).
REAL Love Notes are deposits in the love bank.
Always be honest with your spouse.
Remaining faithful is essential to your REAL marriage.
There is a relationship site that I receive information from that recently posted an article about “white lies” it is okay to tell on a first date. Let’s be clear (and REAL), it is not okay to tell lies, even “white” ones. Do you really want to start a relationship with deception? That is not Romantic or Encouraging. You might think it is Adaptable yet my definition of adaptable is a way of working together and lying is really only about helping you. Lying is certainly not Loving.
Honesty is important in any relationship. Speak the truth, in love, and build your REAL marriage or relationship.
With school fast apporaching or already started in some parts of the country it is time for a “school” date. Dress up like you did in your senior year and head off for a date together. Go someplace you would have gone on a date during your senior year if possible. Invest some time talking about how you have reached goals set during that time and how the two of you want to reach some future goals.
A REAL date a week builds a REAL marriage.
Most of us do something at sometime in our lives for which we need to apologize. Here is a brief way to remember how to apologize. I use the word, ACTS, as a memory device.
The “A” is for acknowledging the pain the other person is experiencing. The “C” reminds you to confess your part in causing the pain. Be concrete and complete. The “T” means to tell what you are going to do differently. The “S” is for you to start new behaviors or do what you said you would do differently.
When you mess up you need to fess up and “ACTS” will help you do it effectively. Aplogizing when you are wrong or have hurt someone is an important part of your REAL marriage.
Tomorrow, August 18, 2009 is “Bad Poetry Day” and “Cupcake Day.” Make a REAL Love Note decorated with a cupcake on the front along with the words “Happy Cupcake Day.” On the inside you can write “Happy Bad Poetry Day” on the left and your bad poem on the right. Keep in mind your loved one’s sensitivities and stay on the right side of those sensitivities when writing your bad poetry.
REAL Love Notes are deposits in the love bank.
The summer weather is a great time for an outdoor date. Get creative here. While you can always eat outside at some restaurants try something different. Go for a canoe ride, a day hike (with picnic), white water rafting, or get out that telescope and have an astronomy date.
This is also the time of year for many places to have their county or state fairs. The fair could become a yearly date tradition.
A REAL date a week builds a REAL marriage.